Jealous kids Question:

Hi Cathy,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and three months. He has two girls, ages 9 and 7.

When we first started dating, we agreed to take things slow where they were concerned. Over time, I have spent more time with him and his kids.

He has his kids half time, and so I give him space with his children, so that he is able to have dinner with them, do homework etc.

On occasion I will have dinner with them and spend time with them too.

Recently, his ex wife called him and said the kids are complaining about him and that he pays more attention to me than them!

He and I have made a conscientious effort to let him have time alone with them. He does things with them without me, and we do things together, because he wants for all of us to spend time together as well, he wants me in his life.

Apparently, the mother has also wondered if I am jealous and keeping their father away from them which is not the case. I feel the behavior of the kids is somewhat manipulative, and their mother puts guilt trips on him.

I don't know what else I can do. My boyfriend has had a talk with them. He is not a bad father, and he is being made to feel he is neglectful, which is untrue.

It bothers me to see him hurt, and now he feels he will lose me. I just reassured him that I love him and support him.

Do you have any advice for me on this jealous kids question?

Thank you

Amy

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