Jealous kids answer:

Hi Amy

It sounds to me as if you and your boyfriend are doing everything possible to make the girls comfortable.

It is hard for children to see their parents with other people (I know this from personal experience) but they will have to get used to it.

It is great that he is seeing them on his own as well as with you, and doing things with them just him and the girls.

I agree that it is important for you to be there some of the time, partly so that they get used to you and get to know you, but also for yours and your boyfriendÕs sakes as well.

You are entitled to a life as well!

The only thing I would suggest is to plan in advance what will be with you and what wonÕt, make sure it is about half and half, and let the girls know in advance as well.

That way, if there are no surprises, they are less likely to complain.

If possible, it might be a good idea to have a routine, where one day you are there, the next you are not, or whatever suits you.

One of the things I did find hardest, was seeing my dad being openly affectionate with his girlfriend. It may be best all round if you can avoid that, at least for a while, until things have settled down.

If you make sure that you are both being fair with the girls then there is no reason to worry about their complaints, or their motherÕs complaints.

It would be a great shame if this spoilt things between the two of you, I hope you can work things out.

Good luck.

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