Bossy child answer:

Hi Sandrine

I've had children just like that in my class!

I tend to think that if this bossiness can be channeled and put to good use, those children will grow up to be good leaders in the future.

I try not to put them down, but you're right, they do need to be gently steered in the right direction.

I would advise that you give this girl specific responsibilities that she is confident with and the other kids know about. At the same time, so as not to single her out, give other responsibilities to some other children, and make it clear that no-one is to interfere or try to take over from whoever has been given the job.

It could be that you have someone responsible for collecting things in or giving things out. Maybe someone could be responsible for making sure all the pens or pencils are available and working/sharpened etc. I often have a 'table monitor' who is in charge of organizing their table of six children. We rotate the jobs around every 4 or 5 weeks so everyone gets a chance to have a go.

You can talk to the girl about how best to talk to people, what she is allowed to do or say and what would not be acceptable.

If she sometimes also has to accept that another child is in charge in some way, she may well begin to understand how being over bossy can get people's backs up and they are less likely to co-operate.

You can have class discussions and role plays to help those with responsibilities get the best out of others without antagonizing anyone (making sure this particular girl doesn't feel singled out!).

She is bound to get it wrong from time to time, and she will need to learn the hard way to a certain extent, but if the other children see you appreciating her and giving her a chance, they are likely to do the same.

I hope that helps - good luck!

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